Monday, December 10, 2007

Quick Bitch

Okay, it's Monday morning and I hope it's a good one. I'm wearing my heart on my sleeve a little today. Woke up in the middle of the night with the gosh-darned awareness that I am so utterly useless, that every time I open my mouth nothing but bullshit comes out, that I can't get people out of jail with my writing, that I can't end the drug war, that I'm old and drink too much, smoke too much, have rotten teeth (great brusher, but lost three caps last year when I bit into wild boar that still had shotgun pellets in it and have two others that are discolored from cigarettes no matter how much I clean them), am a poor substitute for a great father and that everything I do is worthless. I ought to be put up on a billboard for everyone to see: Here I am folks! What a sorry excuse for a spirit!
Not sure where that came from and know it will pass, but it kept me up for a couple of hours going over everything I've said and done in the last couple of weeks. Where's a good psychiatrist when you need one.
I think some of it is because the kids have been spending so much time with Chepa and that her boyfriend was in last week, so I'm sort of not in my family right now. And Chepa still hasn't given birth but will, shortly.
Then this morning at about 5 AM, Italo and Sarah came in. I was sleeping on the floor in the living room as Madeleina had comandeered my couch when she couldn't fall asleep in her room.
I got up feeling better about myself than I had a couple of hours earlier and was told that Italo was headed to the airport. Seems Chepa's boyfriend, who left to return home to another state last night, had changed his mind and caught a flight back so he could be her when Chepa has their baby. And I thought, that's cool. Guy is doing something right. Then I thought Who the hell am I to have an opinion of whether he's doing something right or not?
And then I let myself think about that a moment. And you know what? I realized I'm jealous. I don't want him to come back today. I haven't been with Sierra, their first, but whom I've helped raise for two years, for a week now. And that means I haven't seen Madeleina teach her to dance for a week. And while I shouldn't be attached to Sierra, she really is my kids' sister and she's part of this family that I'm part of, through extention. Same way that the boyfriend, better or worse, is part of the family too. He hasn't been around much but when he's in town he's having an effect on my kids, on my family. He's probably okay but I don't remember inviting him to join us. He's still part of it.
And so I realized I'm jealous that he can just decide to turn around and come back to town and my kids have to pick him up at the airport and his being here cuts me out of seeing my daughter and my kids with their sister. I'm also jealous, though I'll never admit it, that Chepa's in love with him and was probably thrilled when he said he was coming right back, where she wouldn't care anymore if it was me. I'm glad for her and him, but I'm still stinking jealous.
Which brings me back to being useless, worthless and full of bs.
Sorry to lay this on you all but if I don't write what's real, then I don't have anything.

4 comments:

Arbol said...

Hey Peter, Just a Hello from the mountains of CO.
I don't now how you do it, me I wouldn't even lift a finger to help that dude. Yes, jealousy can hurt. At least you realize and that is the first step Bro. Weird how all seems to pile up in the mornings when us guys wake up, expectations and more. Have a great day. Maybe you should go visit that chinese character and see the world from their point of view. Seems to always clear things up after I visit them.

Graccus said...

Peter.....great blog. Hit home in parts...my kids doing great and all..three beautiful grandkids. Tell them that now I get to be the bad example. Run off to Peru or Burning Man when I want. They get it and bless me on my journeys --- both ceremonial and traveling kind. Reading your stuff to my poet/writer wife makes her also better appreciate my wanderings, mental, with the plant medicines and otherwise. Thanks again.

Graccus said...

Peter.....great blog. Hit home in parts...my kids doing great and all..three beautiful grandkids. Tell them that now I get to be the bad example. Run off to Peru or Burning Man when I want. They get it and bless me on my journeys --- both ceremonial and traveling kind. Reading your stuff to my poet/writer wife makes her also better appreciate my wanderings, mental, with the plant medicines and otherwise. Thanks again.

Graccus said...

Peter.....great blog. Hit home in parts...my kids doing great and all..three beautiful grandkids. Tell them that now I get to be the bad example. Run off to Peru or Burning Man when I want. They get it and bless me on my journeys --- both ceremonial and traveling kind. Reading your stuff to my poet/writer wife makes her also better appreciate my wanderings, mental, with the plant medicines and otherwise. Thanks again.